I heard about this on the DC and The Family radio show this morning. According to Snopes, it's true :
Dolores Aguilar 1929 - Aug. 7, 2008
Dolores Aguilar, born in 1929 in New Mexico, left us on August 7, 2008. She will be met in the afterlife by her husband, Raymond, her son, Paul Jr., and daughter, Ruby.She is survived by her daughters Marietta, Mitzi, Stella, Beatrice, Virginia and Ramona, and son Billy; grandchildren, Donnelle, Joe, Mitzie, Maria, Mario, Marty, Tynette, Tania, Leta, Alexandria, Tommy, Billy, Mathew, Raymond, Kenny, Javier, Lisa, Ashlie and Michael; great-grandchildren, Brendan, Joseph, Karissa, Jacob, Delaney, Shawn, Cienna, Bailey, Christian, Andre Jr., Andrea, Keith, Saeed, Nujaymah, Salma, Merissa, Emily, Jayci, Isabella, Samantha and Emily. I apologize if I missed anyone.
Dolores had no hobbies, made no contribution to society and rarely shared a kind word or deed in her life. I speak for the majority of her family when I say her presence will not be missed by many, very few tears will be shed and there will be no lamenting over her passing.Her family will remember Dolores and amongst ourselves we will remember her in our own way, which were mostly sad and troubling times throughout the years. We may have some fond memories of her and perhaps we will think of those times too. But I truly believe at the end of the day ALL of us will really only miss what we never had, a good and kind mother, grandmother and great-grandmother. I hope she is finally at peace with herself.
As for the rest of us left behind, I hope this is the beginning of a time of healing and learning to be a family again.There will be no service, no prayers and no closure for the family she spent a lifetime tearing apart. We cannot come together in the end to see to it that her grandchildren and great-grandchildren can say their goodbyes. So I say here for all of us, GOOD BYE, MOM.
First off, I applaud the family for not making thinly veiled attempts at grief. That being said, what I truly want to know is how much abuse does it take to sever the bonds between a parent and child? Quite apparently, the issues in the Aguilar family ran much, much deeper than arguments over curfews and the "no make-up until you're 16" rule. The picture that came into my mind while reading the obituary was of Sybil's mom; the gray-bunned, sour-faced woman who forced ice water enemas and shoved button hooks into no-no places. There had to exist some horrific mental, if not physical, torture in that household.
Issues like this make me appreciate my family (goofballs that they are) all that much more. We are in no way anywhere perfect, but the love we share is. God willing, there will be no need for obituary writing for many decades; but when that time comes, I know the laurels we bestow on one another will be loving, genuine and thoughtful.
I also hope the children of Dolores Aguilar find some measure of peace amid the pain she inflicted.
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you should meet my mother in law..for years, she allowed various boyfriends to beat my husband, forced him to babysit when he was very small so she could go to the bars every night.. told him that his real dad hated him (he didnt) and that he would never be worth anything,and then when he had the accident that crushed his leg, she promptly canceled his insurance and kicked him out of the house because of how much the bills were..as of last year, she told him that his children were defective and that she never wanted to see him or the kids again, that he was a loser and she hated him.
i can totally sympathize with these people, for sure!
I am so, so sorry for what your husband had to go through! I must live an extremely sheltered life because I just had no idea of what people have to endure.
Your husband is very lucky to have found you.
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